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My “grandma”
By an accidental chance, I took the place of our volunteer group leader to hold a group meeting. That was when I joined in the “Service Group for the old”. Out of excitement, I asked to be the group leader, thinking it must be much more enjoyable than being in the Guangzhou Library!
Our group is responsible to an old woman who is 67 years old. She got divorced with her husband long ago but she still hasn';t had the chance to move out of this old, stuffy small house. We all called her “Grandma”. “Grandma” has three children----a daughter and two sons. Her younger son died young because of the lack of money to save him from his bad illness. Her daughter, who is at her twenties, was abandoned by her boyfriend before marriage. When it came to her daughter , “Grandma” could not help crying. Her older son is at his forties, but he still hasn’t been married yet. He is now doing a job of safeguard with low income. His present girlfriend is a woman who once got divorced. They moved into the same house just a few months ago. It’s said that they treated “Grandma” badly. The living condition of “Grandma” is quite bad. Poor light shines into her dark, stuffy house. In her bedroom, you can not even find a single window at all! No wind, no light. Although it is in the morning, it is as dark as in the evening.
We are just a group of poor students. So we can’t help her much materially. The only service we could offer her was to talk and go shopping with her. Although we couldn’t do much to help her, she still welcomed us. We could tell that she was not only grateful but also looking forward to our visit.
Because of different reasons, we have just been to her house three times since last month. But we are happy to see that every time we went to visit her, “Grandma” had changed little by little. The first time we went to see her, “Grandma” began crying as soon as the man in charge finished his introduction. The painful expression on her face made me perplexed! A few days later when I brought two other volunteers with me to visit her for the first time, “Grandma” could do nothing but crying. Since she narrated her story with emotion and with a strong Guangxi accent, we could hardly figure out what she was saying. The only thing we could do was to pat her shoulders showing her that we were listening to her and we cared about her.Once we got the chance, we would try our best to distract her from her painful memories by telling her some optimistic things. But during the visit, most of the two hours was still spent on crying by “Grandma”. This was the biggest problem we faced, but it was also the biggest challenge.
On the second visit, we were more experienced due to the first visit. So we took the initiative. We talked about the homely things with “Grandma”, trying to avoid making her think of the sad past. Just like other old people, “Grandma” had some indisposition. She believed in god but she was not superstitious. Sometimes she even told us that knowledge was very important. But she didn’t like community activities and she seldom communicated with others. She was burdened by her sad past which devoured her soul bit by bit. To release herself, she would either keep herself away from others, or burst out! In two hours’ conversation, although she would still cry sometimes, she was able to control her emotion and it was much easier for her to calm down.
It was two weeks later that we went to see her for the third time. On the way to her home, we were worried about that whether it would be a little strange for “Grandma” to see us again after a long time’s separation. But this thought turned out to be unnecessary. When we saw her, we found her much hearty this time. But she was still coughing due to the cold she had had before. To our surprise, when it came to her sad past this time, “Grandma” could narrate it much calmly. At last she even asked to bring us to the cell phone monopolistic shops, showing us the cell phones on sale. What a lovely old woman!
The great change of “Grandma” was not the only thing that made us happy. The attitude of her older son towards his mother had also changed a lot. He bought “Grandma” a cell phone and even taught her how to use it. From the conversation with “Grandma”, we could tell that she was not only happy but also surprised by her son’s change. After all they two belonged to the same family. He was the only person that could really make “Grandma” happy again.
As the group leader, I did a self-criticism. I admitted that I did a bad job on the distribution of time and staff. Up till now, we have offered “Grandma” service only three times. And there are only 4 or 5 volunteers having taken part in the service activities. Besides, I found there was little communication among the group members.In the following days, we will not say Good bye to our “Grandma”. Instead, as long as both “Grandma” and we volunteers have spare time, we will go to visit our “Grandma” immediately as to visit a friend or a family member. And we will contact our “Grandma” once a week, making sure she is having a good life and will have!
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