ADDICTION TO ANOTHER -- REALITIES

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1.   You can live without him/her.

2.   Love is not enough.

3.   Guilt is not reason enough to stay.

4.   You don't have to love someone to be addicted to him or her.

5.   Jealousy does not mean you love them. You can be jealous of somebody you can't
     stand. Jealousy usually means you are dependent and/or desperate for them to do
     something for you that you are not willing to do for yourself.

6.   What you see is what you get. Stop hanging on to the belief that you will change
     someone. Motivation for change is inside them. You can't "make" them.

7.   You can not always work it out. It takes two willing people to do that.

8.   When  someone  says,  "I  don't  want  to  be  tied  down,"  or  "I'm  not  ready  for  a
     relationship," or "I'm not going to leave my spouse," etc., BELIEVE THEM !

9.   Half a loaf is not better than none. Learn to thrive, not just survive.

10.  She or he does not  HAVE  to love you (just because you want or hope it)

11.  It doesn't have to get better. Hope is not enough, it may be an illusion.

12.  The pain of ending the relationship won't last forever.

13.  If this will be the same in 5 or 10 years, do you still want it ??

14   The intensity of your withdrawal symptoms does not indicate the strength of your love,
     but, instead, the strength of your addiction.

15.  You are a whole, valuable person apart from that relationship.

16.  “Ending" can also mean opening your life to new possibilities.

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